Contrast it to the domestic scene in the Victorian photograph below, where ladies are enjoying the company of one another in the civil act of taking tea. While one depicts a restless, discontented assembly, the other shows ladies who are relaxed, content and peaceful,as well as happy. They cannot be ridiculous in the natural role of wife,mother, homemaker, guard and guide of the home.
Tea in a Victorian botanical garden
As I was enjoying this photograph, I thought of how much more a woman derives from the home, if she cares for her family and for the house. In the long-run, she stands to benefit so much greater than a lifetime of screaming for her rights. At home she has the reliable sameness of things, without the uncertainly of politics, if she maintains a peaceful atmosphere, not turning every little thing into an argument, and looking on the good side of her family and her home.Home and family will not last very long. It seems in no time the family is grown and gone, and sometimes a husband and father passes away. That is one reason it important to create memories for them all, by what you believe and speak, and by your good stewardship of the home. This does not imply that that the house will never be a mess or that the pressures will never seem overwhelming. It is good to be content, in whatever state you are in.
Will your husband and children have memories of you always complaining, contradicting, finding fault in everything and in general being in a negative mood? When I say you are creating memories, I am not referring to the parties and special events you might present, but to the daily attitude of contentment and happiness you portray by what you do and say.I am sure there are young women who want to leave home just so they can have some fun or be free of the or responsibilities, but I guarantee it is worse away from home. These women will ruin their lives looking for happiness, and will attain nothing. If they stay home and apply themselves and learn to be content, they will reap greater rewards later on. The home is an enterprise that pays off emotionally and monetarily if it is carefully guarded by the lady of the house.
Having a stable family and a house with well-cared for posessions will mean stability later on. Contentment does not imply perfection all the time, for it is often impossible to have an orderly house. Comtentment means that you accept your duty and dedicate yourself to it, minding your own business and not getting upset at the state of the world, which you are powerless to fix. You can however, control your own life at home and no matter how big the job seems, chip away at it, little by little, until it becomes acceptable to you.In all your striving for order and peace in the family and the house, remember that if you are a Christian, Christ is your king and you are serving Him. With so great a king, it makes sense to do well and try to please Him. It is not wise to depend entirely on the approval of people around you, as they are only human beings and can disappoint you. If God has wisely appointed Christian women to guard the home and be keepers at home (Titus 2), then we can confidently fulfill it, knowing we have His approval.Today we have a great blessing in the web, in that homemaking need not be isolated nor boring. People share beautiful pictures of shiny kitchens and tidy porches, inviting living rooms and enticing food. This can be a springboard of encouragement and inspiration for contentment at home. You can do so much at home and it need never be boring!
Here are the scriptures on contentment:Philippians 4:11-13